Why it’s so Hard to Care in 2017…

As you’ve probably noticed, we’re living in the era of “butthurt”. This means everyone is offended by something. (Or everything.)

For your consideration, I’ve made a list of topics to avoid so that you don’t offend anyone: 

– politics (either side of the spectrum)

– religion (any of them) 

– parenting (this includes but is not limited to: breast feeding, bottle feeding, bed times, education, natural birth verses c-section, the color of their nurseries, and names)

– veganism (Or vegetarianism) 

-eating meat (hunting and farming also included) 

– Donald Trump (Or the first lady, or any of the Trump kids, or his orange-ness)

– Hilary Clinton (This includes emails)

– Christmas (holidays in general)

– music, t.v. shows, books 

– cotton

– the weather

– your favorite color (it may be offensive)

– art 

– the color of the sky

– What day of the week it is
Basically, just don’t post ANYTHING on social media, if you’re afraid of starting an argument. I actually saw a political fight start on a post about a pot roast recipe! 

All joking aside, I’m a caring person. I empathize and sympathize. I try to relate to everyone. I see the good in everybody. It hurts me to see others hurting. Point is… I care. I’m a bleeding heart. 
But, everyday, I’m seeing people all around me caring less and less. And, I can’t blame them. 

Arguments are everywhere. Political and religious views are ripping families apart. Racism and prejudice seem to be running wild across the nation. Neighbors fighting neighbors. Family fighting family. 

We have to stop fighting each other, and start fighting FOR each other. 

Having different opinions isn’t a bad thing. It’s what makes our nation great. Freedom means we have a right to be different. It’s being able to be you: whether that’s straight or gay, Christian or Atheist, Republican or Democrat. 

You certainly do not need to agree with everyone around you. In fact, that would be boring. 

What we DO need to do is love each other. We are all humans. We’re so much more alike than we think. Our bond should go deeper than the political party we associate with. 

Stop judging your neighbor for the way they vote, who or how they worship (Or don’t worship), the lifestyle they choose, their sexual orientation, or their race. 

Honestly, I can’t even believe the above sentence needs to be said in 2017. But, here we are. 

It’s hard to care. But that doesn’t mean we stop. It just means we need to try harder. 

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Five Daily Thoughts of an Anxious Girl

If you’re new here, I struggle with AnxietyDisorder. I’m a hot mess 97% Of the time. If you’re an Anxious person, you should be able to relate to these five thoughts I have on a daily basis: 

I’m going to mess something up today. 

This thought isn’t specific to any certain thing. But, I always have the thought in the back of my head. I’m constantly worried I’m going to mess something up, embarrass myself, or make someone mad. I can’t help it. It’s just the way my brain is wired. It’s not that I’m a negative person. I’m quite the opposite, actually. Anxiety tends to cause insecurities. 

What if I’m a burden? 

I’m constantly annoying myself with my anxiety. I even want to get away from me, so I can’t imagine how others feel. Every time I have a panic attack, or a bad day, I feel like I’m just being annoying, or putting un-necessary stress on my loved ones. 

Why am I so weird?! 

Seriously. Why can’t I just be a normal person for FIVE MINUTES?

I am too overwhelmed. 

This is probably my most frequent thought. The smallest things overwhelm me: two different noises at one time, crowds, driving in a new area, going grocery shopping…. not kidding. EVEN SHOPPING. There are multiple times a day when I have to step back and take a “breather” and regroup. It’s not as fun as it sounds. 

Tomorrow will be a better day. 

No matter how bad a day I’m having, I always have hope for tomorrow. People living with AnxietyDisorder get a bad rep. We get labeled as pessimistic or negative. That’s not the case at all. I’m a very optimistic person, in general. I see the good in everyone, I hope for the best, and I aim high. Each night I tell myelf, “Tomorrow is a new day, and I’m going to crush it.” Sometimes, I don’t. But, that o.k., because a lot of times, I do. 

Life is a roller coaster when you’re living with Anxiety. You just have to learn to enjoy being on top. You have to take in the view and remember it. Just know that, even though the ride goes down, it always comes back up. 
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An Open Letter to the Wondering Soul

Here’s to all you travelers, gypsy souls, free spirits, artists, creatives, and day dreamers. 

This one is for you. 

Do not let people steal your sense of adventure. 

Being adventurous is a good trait. Don’t be convinced otherwise. It is o.k. to want to see and try new things. Always let your soul wonder. Never stop dreaming about your next adventure. 

The wanderers are the ones to be envied. Not everyone has it in them to be spontaneous. A gypsy soul is beautiful. 

Keep on creating. 

I’ve learned that nothing spurs my creativity as an artist, more than going on adventures. I get inspired by so many things. Even the smallest of adventures can help to create something magnificent. 

If taking a walk through the woods inspires you to create art, then start walking.

If going to the city brings your imagination to life, then go. 

If the grocery store gets your juices flowing, then make a shopping list!

Do whatever it takes to create YOUR art. It’s worth it. 

Don’t let life steal your joy. 

The routine of everyday life can really way heavy on the Wondering soul. It can make you feel complacent and bored. 

Find beauty in the everyday things. Make something unusual out of the ordinary. Don’t let your day job stop you from achieving your day dream. 

There are so many things to be seen in this world. In fact, there is plenty to be explored in your own city, town, and backyard! 

Don’t let your spirit leave, and don’t allow your light to be put out. The world would be so boring without the adventurers. Just think of everything that would have gone undiscovered. 

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Photography and my Anxiety Disorder 

I have a lot of things that help me with my anxiety: a wonderful husband, a supportive family, great friends, home remedies, and of course, the right medication. But, I want to tell you about how my passion for photography has helped me cope with my disorder. 

I was diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder as a teenager. About a year after the diagnosis is when I picked up photography. (Here’s a shout out to my photographer mom that introduced me to it.) I’ve been doing it about nine years now. To say it’s my passion would be an understatement. It is a huge part of my life. My camera goes everywhere I go. 

Here’s why: whenever I feel an anxiety attack coming on, I can pick up my camera, and escape both reality, and the thoughts inside my head. It allows me to have a break from the panic. 

On top of that, it allows me to create art whenever I want. 

Photography is now my full time job. It is my way of contributing to my husband’s salary, and I can’t express how thankful I am to be able to do what I love for a living. 

But, it’s not just an income for me. It’s a way of life. I don’t just do it because I get paid to do it. My “passion projects” as I call them, are my favorite things to do. I don’t get paid to do them, but I do get to create art, and work through my anxiety. It’s therapy for me. Whether there’s money in it, or not, I will always have my camera ready. 

“Photography is therapy for the eyes, mind, and soul.”

When you suffer from Anxiety disorder, (Or ANY mental disorder, for that matter), and you can find something that helps, you do it. You do it as much as you can. 

Art heals. That, I know to be true. It’s one of the most therapeutic things on Earth. I can’t imagine life without it. In fact, it’s amazing just how many people have been effected by art. 

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Three ways People with a Mental Illness are Asking for Help without Actually Asking

Each year, about 42.5 million Americans are suffering with a mental illness. That’s nearly one in every five. This could mean Anxiety Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Chronic Depression, Schizophrenia, etc.

Mental illnesses tend to be silent killers. People will fight with their sickness, without telling anyone. It’s not something you can physically see, but is VERY real. For those not suffering from a mental disorder, it may be easy to overlook the signs that a loved one is suffering.


How do you know if someone is screaming for help? Here are three signs to look for:

Becoming Distant:
If someone is suffering with their depression, anxiety, etc., they might tend to make themselves distant from loved ones. They will become quiet, and keep to themselves. This doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want to be helped. It may just mean that they are afraid to ask for it. They may be scared of being a burden. Don’t look past it. Reach out to them.

Acting out: 

If your loved ones aren’t acting like themselves, there could be a good reason. Sometimes, people “act out” in hopes to bring attention to the fact that they need help. They may not come out and tell you directly. A lot of people are quick to judge, and assume there isn’t a good reason behind a person’s negative actions. But, sometimes, there are very good reasons. Offering help might make more of a difference than you think.


Hinting around:

Sometimes people are afraid, or embarrassed to come out and tell you that they’re suffering. They may hint around about it when talking to you. They won’t say it out right, but you should be able to notice. With it being the age of Social Media, you can also pay attention to your loved one’s posts.



Suicide is the last scream for help when it comes to this. It is the leading cause of premature death among people with mental illnesses. Don’t wait until it’s too late to pay attention. Don’t wait until your loved one is gone to realize they’re suffering. Look at them. Love them. Talk to them.


If you are struggling with your mental illness, PLEASE GET HELP. Do not be afraid to ask for it. Just know that there is always someone that will listen. There is someone that cares about you. I CARE ABOUT YOU.



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I have Anxiety Disorder AND a Superpower. 

Empathy: The ability to share and understand the feelings of another.

Today, my cousin (and one of my best friends), Amy, sent me an article about the superpowers those with Anxiety Disorder posess. You can see the article here: http://awarenessact.com/ppeople-with-anxiety-disorders-are-hiding-these-5-superpowers-backed-by-science/

The thing that stood out the most to me, was the fact that those of us who struggle with Anxiety Disorder, also possess an increased of empathy. 

I Feel like this is so true! I have always fed off of the energy of others, and, to go even further, the energy of places. 

I never really thought of this as a “superpower”, or even something out of the norm. I never gave much of a second thought to it at all, or linked it to my Anxiety Disorder. 

But, after talking to people that both do, and don’t, suffer from Anxiety, there does seem to be a pattern. 

I, personally, love the GIFT of empathy. I am thankful to be able to relate and understand others. I feel more connected to people. I think empathy and compassion go hand in hand. 

I have a love and appreciation for people in all walks of life. I feel for those who are hurting, and I’m happy for those who are happy. 

The article also stated that this who have Anxiety Disorder also have the ability to see the energy in others, have “life-saving instinct”, a heightened IQ, and are able to see through lies. 

Think about it. All of these “superpowers” stemming from a disorder. There are so many good things that can come from something “bad”. 

Some days, I’m thankful for my disorder. Without it, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. Sure, there are bad days, but there have been so many times I got to help others through difficult times. (Even if it was just lending an ear.) 

If you are struggling with the fact that you have Anxiety Disorder, try to turn it around and make it into something awesome. Turn your disorder into a superpower, and use it for good! 

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Five Binge-Worthy Shows on Netflix

My husband and I got rid of our cable bill two years ago, and use Netflix as our primary source of television entertainment. 

Here are my top five picks for binge-worthy shows: 

1. F.R.I.E.N.D.S. 

There are 10 seasons of “F.R.I.E.N.D.S.” on Netflix. This show is an oldie, but a goodie. It’s light-hearted, and funny. I would recommend watching this, if you need a break from deep, dramatic shows. I know I can always count on it to make me laugh. 

In my humble opinion, “F.R.I.E.N.D.S.” takes the cake for sitcoms. I have yet to find one I like better. 

2. Grey’s Anatomy 

If you love medical shows, dramas, and comedies: this is the show for you! It takes all of the above, and morphs them into one incredible show. 

I love so many of the characters on this show, that I can’t even pick a favorite!

There are 13 seasons of “Grey’s” on Netflix right now, so there are plenty of binging hours ahead of you with It! 

3. Shameless 

This show is raw. It’s real life. Sometimes, it may even be “too” real. But, that’s one of the reasons I love it so much. 

The character development and acting are un-matched, if you ask me.

This show hits on everything from drug addiction, to dealing with homosexuality, to teen pregnancies, to mental illness. (And everything in between!) It is not for the faint of heart. 

There are currently 7 seasons on Netflix. (Season 8 is currently being filmed) 

4. Supernatural 

I love this show, and so does my husband. It really has something for everyone. 

“Supernatural” follows two brothers around on their journey of fighting the paranormal. It has comedy and drama thrown in, as well. (Plus, the eye candy is pretty awesome!)

This is another show with plenty of episodes. There are currently 12 seasons on Netflix! 

5. Pretty Little Liars 

I have just recently watched “PLL” on Netflix. It’s quite addicting. There are surprises and twists around every corner!

I also love the character development in this show with the main characters. 

If you love a show that can keep you guessing, then this is the one for you . You’ll be shocked through all 7 of the seasons currently on Netflix. 

I’d love to hear from you all on what YOUR favorite show is to binge watch! Do you have a recommendation? Leave it in the comments! 
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